Sometimes we can get caught up in the busyness of life swirling around us and forget to take time to slow down, look around, and breathe. I’ve been finding myself in that whirlwind lately and was reminded through a friend’s blog post entitled “Calibrate Your Compass” of the importance of taking a step back.
My busyness has kept me from activities I enjoy and from tasks I would like to do. I have numerous responsibilities, but do I need to keep them all? Who’s ultimately responsible for these commitments? Yep, I am. And that means I can say no and tell others I don’t have time or energy to contribute to their requests.
The problem is I like to help others when I can. Many people have helped me during my lifetime. I feel that if I can help, I should. That’s not to say I never say no. I do, and I typically have healthy boundaries. Where I see those lines start to blur is when people want to borrow my expertise. I’m flattered when that happens.
But that doesn’t mean I need to say yes every time, just as I don’t expect anyone to help me every time I ask them. Giving of myself can be rewarding, but if I don’t take care of myself and rejuvenate, I won’t have anything left to share.
To truly help others, I have to make time for myself a priority. For me, that involves walking, jogging, reading, writing, and things like that. It doesn’t have to be a lot of my time, but enough to remind myself I’m valuable and worth taking care of. And when I do that, I feel energized and have more to give to others.
Remember, you are important and worth taking care of.
Christian, wife, mother of 5, breast cancer survivor, marathon finisher, writer and editor, author of "Help! I'm a Science Project"