When you’re young and in love, you do things without thinking. When you say you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you have no idea what that will entail.
I was taught to be a woman of my word, and thankfully, my husband was taught to be a man of his word. And we’ve stuck to our wedding vows, through ups and downs, tribulations, elation, you name it. Was it always easy? Absolutely not. There were times each of us wanted to walk away, but we didn’t. Why? Because we committed to be faithful to each other “in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others as long as we both shall live.”
We’ve definitely experienced all of those extremes in our nearly 26 years of married life, and I’m happy to say we’ve come through stronger as a result of staying together when the going got tough. And now as our five children grow older and leave the nest, we have the rest of our lives together to look forward to. We still dream and plan, we laugh and cry, we fight and make up — together.
We just returned from a weekend away at a resort for an early anniversary celebration, and it was wonderful. We enjoyed some much-needed downtime with each other. We weren’t on any schedule and simply appreciated being together and making more memories.
We strolled to a breakfast venue on a brisk morning. We played cribbage on the balcony of our room overlooking the TPC Scottsdale championship Stadium golf course. We participated in the resort’s Christmas festivities — I talked him into going on the ice slide with me, and we rode the train through the resort to admire the 3 billion Christmas lights. But mostly, we liked being together.
It’s important to make time for each other as a couple. Life moves fast, kids grow up, and then you’re left with each other. If you don’t make time for one another a priority now, you might end up with a stranger. Don’t let that happen. Keep the flame of romance alive and enjoy the times you do have together. You’ll both be better off for it in the long run.
Christian, wife, mother of 5, breast cancer survivor, marathon finisher, writer and editor, author of "Help! I'm a Science Project"