Society today places a lot of emphasis on individual happiness. We can watch what we want, when we want, on Netflix, Amazon Prime, Hulu, YouTube, and other channels. We can access companies through the device of our choice from anywhere, at any time. We can order anything from pizza and groceries to a new vehicle online in a matter of minutes.
But are we truly happy?
It may sound harsh, but I don’t wish for you to be happy. I wish the best for you. Did you know there’s a difference?
To have what’s best for us requires us to go through difficult times, times when we’re not happy, times when we don’t get what we want right when we want it. Those trying times of delayed gratification cause us to grow in character and maturity as we navigate the challenges. By enduring them, we learn what we’re capable of. But more than that, we learn to appreciate the end result because of what it took to reach it.
If we didn’t go through difficult times and were just happy all the time, we would take our lives for granted. And we wouldn’t grow.
My husband and I have been married more than 26 years now. And just as is true in every marriage, it hasn’t been all easy or happy. There were times we weren’t sure we’d make it as a couple. But we kept at it, true to our commitments to each other. And you know what? Our relationship today is stronger and sweeter as a result.
The next time you find yourself in a trying time and your happiness far from you, remember it’s for your good. You’ll come out stronger if you don’t give up. And you’ll be able to look back later, more appreciative of your current state because of what you endured to get there.
We weren’t meant to be happy all the time. Anything worth having takes time and hard work to get.
Christian, wife, mother of 5, breast cancer survivor, marathon finisher, writer and editor, author of "Help! I'm a Science Project"